Join Dave and Bethlie as they continue a study on a few select chapters of the book Ten Pillars of an Awesome Marriage by Charles Shoemaker.
PART 2
5. Chapter 5 Conflict Resolution
Goal - not to avoid but to handle wisely Illustration of Lady Astor to Winston Churchill - If you were my husband, I would give you poison; if you were my wife, I would take it! P. 85 Swindoll Quote Frequently, marital warfare is in the trenches of belligerence or moodiness. Some battles are night attacks or surprise assaults. Others are cold wars of stoic silence. Cruel methods of torture are also employed—public criticism, fearful threats, intimidation, ugly sarcasm, and hateful remarks designed to put down one’s mate. Such tactics are popular . . . but wrong because they are unfair and they never lead to domestic peace.” P. 87 PFS - personal filtering system Age Gender Education Life experiences Culture Temperament Skills Personality Spirituality How do you resolve conflicts Be right with God Be swift to hear and slow to speak Own it when you are wrong Stay focused on issue at hand Face conflicts with a team mindset We not me A marriage struggles when it has two “I”s
