Overcoming Misunderstandings In Marriage

Every marriage faces misunderstandings, but it's how we handle them that determines whether our relationship thrives or struggles. In this episode of Keeping It Young, Dave and Bethlie share practical, biblical wisdom on overcoming misunderstandings in marriage before they grow into bigger problems.

Learn how to approach difficult conversations with humility and kindness, share your needs in ways your spouse can receive them, and present issues without tearing down your spouse. Dave and Bethlie discuss the difference between minor miscommunications and deeper misunderstandings that need addressing.

Whether you're newlyweds or have been married for decades, this episode provides actionable application for maintaining intimacy, avoiding resentment, and growing together as co-laborers in Christ.

What You'll Learn:

• The difference between simple miscommunications and destructive misunderstandings
• How to approach issues with humility, kindness, and grace
• Why making demands always leads to failure in marriage
• How to share needs in a way your spouse can process
• Practical communication strategies for husbands and wives
• The spiritual foundation for overcoming relational challenges
  
  Episode Notes:

1. What do we mean by misunderstandings?
   1. Desires that aren’t met
   2. Issues that won’t go away
   3. Failure to meet each others needs
2. How do you overcome them?
   1. Approach issues in a right way
      1. Recognize the value of humility and kindness
         1. allows us to be vulnerable
         2. allows us to develop intimacy (even if it is small)
      2. Recognize that making demands equal failure
         1. These usually are accusations that are selfish
         2. They build walls rather than intimacy
   2. Share your needs in the way that your spouse processes
      1. Have a right motivation
         1. That your spouse will grow spiritually and have God’s blessings
      2. Use a  right presentation
         1. Don’t belittle
         2. Be honest but build
            1. A husband especially needs this:
               1. I know you are better than this
         3. For a wife -
            1. don’t process everything with him 
            2. plan how to be kind and to the point
         4. For a husband
            1. Be kind and loving in your words
            2. Ask her to pray about the matter
            3. Share it with her and ask her to consider it and talk about it later
            4. Don’t be frustrated by her processing
   3. Determine to grow (prefereably together)
      1. Know you you are in Christ
      2. Know who your spouse is in Christ
      3. Know that your are co-laborers for Christ
         1. You are in this together
         2. Pray for and help each other