Books That Can Help...and Why [Tripp] Part 2

PART 2

3. Some important quotes stand out! 

4.  His comments about the ROD are really good in chapter 11

1. 1. Children are not born morally and ethically neutral
      1. If they are they don’t need correction, just direction
      2. If they are not, then they need correction
      3. Our child’s problem is that he or she is a sinner!
   2. p. 102. Folly is the problem we have to address according to proverbs
      1. Folly is not childishness
      2. Folly describes the person who does not fear God
         1. A fools life is run by his desires and fears
         2. The fool lives out of the immediacy of his lusts, cravings, expectations, hopes, and fears
   3. The issue is authority
      1. Will a child live under the authority of God and his parents?
      2. Will he/she live under their own authority?
      3. All children choose to live under their own authority:
         1. I don’t want my diaper changed
         2. I don’t want to sit quietly at the table during this meal
         3. You are going to make me and if you do I will scream and throw a huge fit
         4. Leave this to take root and grow, and it produces “a rebellious teenager who will not allow anyone to rule him.”
         5. “God has ordained the rod of discipline for this condition.” p. 103
         6. “Confrontation, with the immediate and undeniably tactile sensation of a spanking, renders an implacable child sweet.” (p. 103)
         7. The quote on p 103 is massively important
      4. The function of the rod
         1. It imparts wisdom Pr 29:15, which is tied to the fear of god
         2. “It creates an atmosphere in which instruction can be given. The spanking renders the child compliant and ready to receive life-giving words.”  (p 104)
         3. Tripp deals with the question - don’t all children eventually learn to obey? He say NO!! Proverbs 29:15, 17
      5. The rod defined - p. 104
         1. “The rod is a parent, in faith toward God and faithfullness toward his or her children, undertaking the responsibility of careful, timely, measured, and controlled use of physical punishment to underscore the importance of obeying God, thus rescuing the child from continuing in his foolishness unto death.” 
            1. It is a parental exercise
            2. It is an act of faith in God and His Word
            3. It is an act of faithfulness - an expression of love and comitment
            4. It is an act of responsibility - not a parent determining to punish, but a parent determining to obey
            5. It is an act of physical punishment
               1. Not venting or parental anger
               2. Not frustration
               3. Not based on a feeling of my child is bothering me
               4. It is always measured and controlled
            6. It is a rescue mission
               1. Rescues the child from continuing in foolishness
               2. To ignore your child’s rebellion against God’s authority is to ultimately brings God’s greater chastisement into their lives.
      6. The Rod clarified
         1. Not unbridled temper
         2. Not the right to hit my child
         3. Not venting or frustration
         4. not retribution
            1. Not payment but restoration
         5. Not vindictive
      7. The Rod objected
         1. I love my child too much too spank
            1. You love yourself too much to spank them
         2. I am afraid I will hurt them
            1. “Biblically-balanced discipline never physically endangers a child”
         3. I am afraid it will make him rebellious and angry
            1. Proverbs 29:17 teaches the exact opposite
         4. I am afraid it will teach them to hit
            1. Only if you spank in anger
         5. It doesn’t work
            1. It doesn’t when you spank in anger or out-of-control
            2. It doesn’t when you are inconsistent
            3. It doesn’t when you fail to be persistent
            4. It doesn’t when you aren’t effective
         6. I could be arrested for child abuse
            1. Only spank in the privacy of your home and do it right