Books That Can Help...and Why [Leman] Part 1

Dave and Bethlie discuss the 4th book in this series. Solving Marriage Problems by Jay E. Adams.

Chapter 1

p. 2. Husbands and wives must grow as individuals in conformity to Christ in order to be compatible with each other.

What this book is all about?

1. Marriage problems of all sorts.
2. Causes of these problems
3. Ways of detecting, categorizing, naming and describing problems in a biblical manner.
4. Ways of reaching biblical solutions to marriage problems 

Chapter 3 - What causes Marriage Problems?

1. The basic cause is always sin. But sin manifests itself in two ways: in erroneous concepts and in sinful attitudes or practices p 11
2. Wrong living will be changed only by rooting out the fundamental cause in a person’s thinking. P. 12
3. Correcting organic problems do not make everything better.  An organic problem may include bad attitudes to develop or cause a breakdown in communication.  Correcting the problem does not automatically correct the attitude and the communication. Those have to be corrected separately.

Chapter 4 - UnBiblical Concepts about Marriage

1. The purpose of marriage is to meet man’s need for companionship. Marriage was designed to defeat loneliness.  Companionship, therefore, is the essence of marriage.
   1. This is why fornication, adultery and polygamy are wrong. They vitiate true companionship because they destroy the intimacy of a constant, close relationship.  
2. The Obligation of marriage is to vow to provide companionship for another for the rest of their lives.   It is not about receiving companionship but about giving it.